Reno's post.


Jess the Candle ([email protected])
Sun, 11 Oct 1998 04:04:24 -0400 (EDT)


I met quite a few of you at different shows.. in
any case, here goes.

I know Anna. I was one of the people she supposedly
'manipulated' into taking her to shows. And the funny
thing is, I did it of my own free will. And I still
don't regret it.. when you call someone a 'friend'
it usually includes selfless giving. Granted, this
wasn't necissarily a life or death situation...but
I honestly had more fun going to 6 shows with her than
I would have by myself. Hell, I probably wouldn't have
gone if it hadn't been for her. What did I get out
of it? Nothing. But I know if the situations were
reversed, she'd do the same for me. That's my
understanding of friendship.

Now, in regards to Reno's post.. and I do so hope
he reads this.

You sound an awful lot like my ex boyfriend. The
one who used to cry and beg me to hold him in my
arms while he kills himself. The only thing that
saved him is the fact that I ignored him. I left
him, and he's now living a much happier life.

I don't know much about the situation. But I read your
post, and I wonder how you can put so much blame on her.
It seems to me as if you're avoiding responcibility.. you
can't blame how you feel on someone else - you let this
happen to yourself. By saying, it's all her fault, only
she can get me out of this.. you're letting someone else
control your life. YOUR life. You are the only one
responcible for yourself. 'A killer amonst us'. Of course
she can't help but see you as 'sick', I think anyone
who reads your post would think the same without knowing
any of the situation. Who are you to drag somebody down
with you. No one can save you but yourself. So quit
blaming someone else for your problems. Be strong.

(and before you tell me I don't know what it's like,
please understand you don't know me)

In anycase - for anyone else who reads this letter.
I'd like to offset what Reno said. Anna is an absolutely
wonderful person (as much as she likes to deny that :P)
I've met very few people like her - she's the type
of friend you can stay up till all hours of the morning
with, talking to.. the type of friend you can drive
all over the country with (and into canada, if the
border guards don't harrass you too much). I've only
been around with her in real life for a total of about
two weeks.. but I've talked to her ever night (okay,
every 3 or 4 nights as of late), and I consider
her one of my best friends. ANNA YOU'RE WONDERFUL
AND I LOVE YOU :P

It's your world. You can change it.

-Jess. (sometimes you win by losing..)



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